When a parent watches their child graduate from High School there is a sense of accomplishment. You helped your child get through a lot! You've watched them grow into young adults that are on the road to becoming successful members of society. What an amazing feeling. Then, another reality hits you. What are you going to do without them for 3 to 4 years? You just spent all that time helping them navigate the scary road that is childhood. And here they are at adulthood's doorstep. Now they don't need you? Wrong. They need you more than ever for the following reasons.
They will be meeting a large amount of people in a short amount of time. College dorm rooms are a melting pot of many different personalities in a small space. They will not get along with some of these personalities, and may have a difficult time deciding who is worth their time. Most students will be desperate for friends the first few months of college and thus some bad seeds may attach themselves to your child. It's good to know who they are talking to and getting to know the best so you can help if drama emerges.
College kids will see alcohol and drugs. This is the truth. They will all be subject to peer pressure and it is important for them to understand the basics with alcohol consumption.
They will be around the opposite sex. Fact. They will be subject to hard choices and things they have never seen before. They will need you to have conversations with them about these new experiences.
They will have stress- lots of it. They will have more school work than they have ever seen, and might have a hard time balancing the stress. Social stress and school stress can weigh heavily on a person. They will look to you for insight on how to manage this. You can share stories of how you deal or send them a couple dollars to go take a break.
They will need you more than ever. As someone to talk to. As a confidant. As a parent.
Make sure to give them space but also stay involved. They will be coming to you for advice before you know it.
Cheers and goodluck!
Steph
They will be meeting a large amount of people in a short amount of time. College dorm rooms are a melting pot of many different personalities in a small space. They will not get along with some of these personalities, and may have a difficult time deciding who is worth their time. Most students will be desperate for friends the first few months of college and thus some bad seeds may attach themselves to your child. It's good to know who they are talking to and getting to know the best so you can help if drama emerges.
College kids will see alcohol and drugs. This is the truth. They will all be subject to peer pressure and it is important for them to understand the basics with alcohol consumption.
They will be around the opposite sex. Fact. They will be subject to hard choices and things they have never seen before. They will need you to have conversations with them about these new experiences.
They will have stress- lots of it. They will have more school work than they have ever seen, and might have a hard time balancing the stress. Social stress and school stress can weigh heavily on a person. They will look to you for insight on how to manage this. You can share stories of how you deal or send them a couple dollars to go take a break.
They will need you more than ever. As someone to talk to. As a confidant. As a parent.
Make sure to give them space but also stay involved. They will be coming to you for advice before you know it.
Cheers and goodluck!
Steph
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